If you have heard many stalking cases they are likely have featured women as the victim; however, I am one of the few men to have been a victim of stalking. I have followed many of the cases like Jodi Sanderholm, Kelsey Smith and Morgan Harrington. It was the case of Morgan Harrington that brought me face-to-face with a woman who would soon begin stalking me.
I had met her online discussing various aspects of the case and when I decided to travel to Virginia for he one year anniversary of Morgan’s disappearance in October 2010 we met. Face-to-face this seemed like a very different person than I had spent hours speaking with on Facebook and the phone. She was much more clingy and jealous. She took my saying hi to a waitress as flirting and would become enraged.
After the meeting in October she would begin calling me 2-3 times a day then by the end of November it had increased to 6-7 times a day. She blamed the constant calls on panic attacks. We lived in different states and I continued to stress that if we were going to have a relationship I wanted to go slow. She didn’t seem to understand that and claimed I was ignoring her.
By Christmas the calls increased to a minimum of nine times per day. The more I back off the relationship the more persistent she became. In February, she wanted to come see me and I told her it was not a good idea. She came anyway and by April 2011 she was pressuring me to move to Virginia to be with her. When I told her I was not ready to do that she responded by yelling that I didn’t care about her.
I knew it had to end and tried to let her down easy. However, she was obsessed. In one day she called me a total of 37 times. I was concerned for her as a person, but was not interested in a relationship. She would call stating if I would not be with her she would kill herself or so something stupid.
It was mid-April 2011 before she finally left me alone. I have not heard from her since.
My name is Ben and this is my stalking experience.